According to “Conversations with God, Book 3”, we’re all constantly having S.E.X. with each other. That is, Synergistic Energy eXchange. Sex from that viewpoint is beyond the scope of this article, but check out the book if you’re interested. Instead, I’ll be discussing sex with a small “s”. You probably already know how and where, so I’ll tell you when and why.

When two people meet and are attracted to each other, the question of when they will have sex is usually uppermost in their minds. Here’s a motto to remember before you get all hot and heavy with a new guy:

Unmask him before you undress him.

What does this mean? Well, everyone wears a social mask when you first meet them. You’re not meeting the real person, but their “representative” or “press agent” if you will. Look back at some of your past liaisons. If you knew then what you know now, would you have ever gotten naked with them? Exactly!

Unless you’re just looking for a booty call, there is absolutely nothing to be gained by having sex right away. It distorts how you view the guy. Before sex, the guy can’t think clearly (all he can think about is getting you into bed) and the girl can. After sex, the guy is thinking clearly but the girl suddenly has a case of blurred vision. She could be dating the Wolfman, but she won’t see it. It’s natures way of making sure women stay with a man long enough to procreate. Don’t be fooled by Mother Nature!!

Like it or not, the double standard still exists. A guy inherently doesn’t trust a girl that will give it up too soon. He’ll figure you’re that way with everyone, even if you say you don’t usually do that. How can he know it’s true?? Sure he’ll stick around for a while, but lust is never the glue that holds a relationship together.

I know some of you are probably saying. “It’s 2004. That’s old fashioned.” What you’re actually saying is that since we’ve grown technologically, that we’ve also grown psychologically. While it’s true that we now use email instead of carrier pigeon, and ride in cars instead of horse drawn carriages, we’re in the same place emotionally that we were in prehistoric times. How do I know this? We don’t have world peace. We still get angry, possessive, jealous and vengeful, just like our ancestors.

It’s just human nature to value something more if we have to work for it. Which car would you be inclined to take better care of: the car of your choice that someone bought for you and handed you the keys to or the car you had to save, scrimp and sacrifice for?? I rest my case.

So remember ladies, when you meet a new guy, open your eyes and close your legs until you “unmask” him!

Lucia host of the TV Show "The Art of Love". You can watch "SEX" Watch Clip