It’s been said that love is blind. It may also be deaf and dumb, but today I’ll deal with the onset of blindness that occurs at the beginning of a relationship. When you first meet someone you’re are attracted to, your eye sight isn’t 20/20. You don’t/don’t want to see the person for who they really are. Just as the USA currently has a color coded terror alert, there is also a personal alert system that goes beyond the well known “red flags”. I believe there are smaller warning signs of trouble up ahead. I call these yellow and orange flags.

Blasts the stereo when you are in the car with him/her. Guys are usually more guilty of this than girls, since our ego isn’t tied to our stereo. If the guy is under 21, okay, he’s immature. If he’s between 21 and 30 and the music is so loud you can hardly carry on a conversation, there’s probably a maturity issue here. If he’s over 30, it becomes an orange flag.

Breast implants. I know there’s going to be a lot of controversy over this, since we live in silicone valley (figuratively). Unless the implants were for work related reasons (actress, bikini model, stripper, etc), or because the breasts were disfigured (pregnancy, breast feeding, medical reasons), I believe this is a yellow flag. Unfortunately, this society has given women the message that they are “less than” if they are anything “less than” a C cup. That is still not an excuse for falling into this trap. You can’t find your self esteem in your cleavage. My motto is: The bigger the implant, the lower the self esteem. If you meet someone with a DD cup and she’s not in the above professions, it becomes an orange flag.

How do they hug? I once dated someone that stood there like a robot whenever I hugged him hello/goodbye. Another guy only hugged with one arm. Talk about noncommital. Both guys are no longer in my life. If a guy can’t/won’t hug “properly”, he’s got issues. It’s a yellow flag.

Sticks to you like glue. Ladies, have you ever dated someone who would hold your hand the entire time (and I do mean, the entire time) you were at a nightclub together? I bet they also accompanied you to the bathroom and waited outside for you. How did it turn out? Exactly. This is not normal, male behavior. The guy that did this with me is a big time player (of course, I didn’t know it at the time). He wanted to show me off, and make sure everyone knew I was with him, so that no one would try to approach me. The other explanation for this is that the guy is from another country. In that case, it would be a yellow flag. Otherwise, it’s orange. Proceed with caution.

Points outattractive women/men. There are several reasons for this. The person is insecure about your feelings for them, so they want to make you jealous and see your reaction. Yellow. The person was raised by wolves and doesn’t know what is acceptable social behavior. Orange. The person is upset with you about something and is using this as a way to get back at you. Orange.

Keep this in mind: 2 yellow flags = 1 orange flag. 2 orange flags = 1 red flag.

Class dismissed.

Lucia host of the TV Show "The Art of Love". You can watch "SEX" Watch Clip

Yellow & Orange Flags Part 2